Thats a big ass question to ask. I think people can change, but they need to want to. I think people can change for better or worse. I think people can change but some of their friends wont like it.
I'm open to change in most circumstances (work, life, relationships & otherwise), but I'm pretty set in my ways when it comes anything else. I like a bit of structure and organisation to most things. I can change but I have to want to change.
And that I think is the case with most people.
It's hard to really pick a 'rooftop moment' as I've had a few and for the purposes of this blog I'm just going to be thinking about anything with a view point higher than my skull.
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This image was from my trip to Hong Kong & South Korea, roughly 4-5 years ago. It was taken somewhere I cant remember (god I wish I'd taken notes in the dates before GPS tagging). From memory we had caught a bus to the opposite side of island, to get to some markets and touristy places. While we were there we just began walking about and enjoying the weather and the scenery before we started to follow a sign which pointed to a temple.
After what felt like OH GOD I DON'T KNOW 4 HOURS OF WALKING, we found this temple and this was its views. It's always kind of stuck with me because it was just one of those moments where I was able to take in how much urban development encroaches on the environment. That; and I was travelling with my best mate Stu. God I miss that boy. I need to go OS again.
The next image I'll post is from Melbourne on a BRILLIANT AFTERNOON/EVENING of drinking delicious delicious booze with the handsome Melburnian.
I think the overriding these pictures are being posted are the memories that they both bring flooding back to me. Such fun, Such good people.
You know what, two of these are going to be genders. I've no idea what the fuck men want, and despite having been surrounded my women for the majority of my formative years; I've come to realise that a bunch of women have no idea what they want because they keep moving the goal posts.
If you've followed my Facebook statuses over the past few months (there was a particular week when there were some absolute pearlers), you would know that I've probably alienated most of Gay Adelaide because they're all (ok ok most of them) indecisive shallow cunt burgers. I've one of these dudes for a few years most of which he was bugging me to "be intimate" with him, and then all of a sudden now that hes going to the gym and got mediocre arm muscles he's decided he justs want to be mates with me. Yeah, you know what dude; NO BODY WANTS A CLOSET CASE WITH A GREAT SET OF ABS AND ARMS UNLESS THEY CAN SHOW YOU OFF IN FACE PUBLIC BUT SMASHING FACES WITH YOU.
I love the women in my life (and for the purpose of the post I'm talking exclusively about family members), They've all contributed in some way to me becoming the kind of level-headed foul mouthed homosexual you see (read) before you. But what I don't get is A) the constant moving of the goal posts (Hello Mum), B) The self doubt and low confidence issues & C) (in at least 2 of them) their prudish attitudes to some aspects of life).
Lets address B for a few seconds; My sisters are beautiful, Every one of them (I have 3), but they're always trying to loose weight or change something about themelves and I don't think they need too (besides to give themselves a healthier look). They are radiant, fun loving women who occasionally go through bouts of self doubt. I wish they could get past this.
Theres probably been a few things recently that have sparked my excitement. I've had a few opportunies to hang out with great friends, I've seen one of my favourite live acts play in one of the best pubs in my city, I've seen HENRY ROLLINS, and I've got hang out with a mate who had a tough couple of years.
But I thought out of all those the excitement applies to anything to do with my friends. Hanging out with them is always a treat, I never know what I'm in for in some cases!
I had an absolute blinder of a night a few weeks ago, which just came totally out of the blue. It was brilliant; Awesome day watching one of my friends perform in a competition, then relaxing beers. Shortly after that we'd ordered pizza, began drinking beautiful wine, slowly moving to any booze we could find before we stumbled into the CBD to a friends birthday party( (at which we fucking owned the dance floor) after which we someone dragged ourselves to the local gay bar before once again owning the dance floor too.
I hurt for 3 days after. It was so painful. I get excite for hanging out with friends. Really really excited.
Awkward question really, As I don't get stressed all that often. Nothing work related stresses me, nothing in my social life stresses me, family stuff can annoy me; but generally I'm not stressed about things.
Besides my romantic life.
The (non-existant) romantic aspect of my life is possibly the most stressful thing I deal with, and even then I don't think that stress is the correct word to be using.
It's probably more of an annoying itch that doesn't seem be go away. I wan't to have someone in my life again; but I just cant be bothered dealing with the horrid rancid gays in this city that seem to be the only ones that are willing to talk me.
Anyway, this isn't about that; How do I relax in those 'annoying itch' situations; Probably with alcohol, the gym, podcasts, music. All the good stuff.
Not often enough it would seem. I've got a little bit of credit card debt which sucks up a lot of my money as I'm trying to throw the majority of my income at it to get it out of my life.
Aussie money notes
The downside of this is that i'm mostly unable to actually afford a holiday or trip when I have the time to take one. I've got so much annual leave up my sleeve it's actually ridiculous. This will come in handy over the next few months though; I plan on taking a couple of trips interstate (Sydney, Melbourne & Brisbane) and hopefully a little later I'll be heading overseas to see my mate.
This means I have now got to be even more stingy in the way I spend my money; I've cut down my drinking, I'm not buying expensive things from work & I'm trying to not spend so much money during lunch break on food stuffs.
I've actually remembered to write one this week! In no particular order; here is what I'm looking forward to this week.
This coming week, I get to hang out with two of the most awesome chicks I know. Both of them have had a rough few weeks for varying reasons; and we unfortunately don't get to hang out as often as I wish we would. We're having a massive drinking/catch up/feeling sorry for each other night this week. Its so overdue.
Garden Of Unearthly Delights Opening!
The Adelaide Fringe festival is starting again shortly, and I've been lucky enough to score an invite to the opening night of the Garden Of Unearthly Delights (thanks to my Adelaide ArtBeat commitments). For those of you that live here and have not attending the gardens, please make an effort to get there this yeah, its one of the most beautiful / sexy / cheeky atmospheres you can find during the festival season.
OH MY HEAVENS I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS WOMEN. She is incredibly funny, very quick and so very down to earth. She also wrote back to me on Twitter once and for that I'll always have a soft spot for her in my heart. She is wickedly funny.
If you follow the Adelaide ArtBeat blog, Last year I reviewed a show called Drags Aloud; this year one of the stars of that show has her own. It covers her journey through life; her youth, growing up realising you were a little different and then having a major car accident which let you see that its time start living your life the way you feel you should be. Can not wait for this show.
Boys Catch Up
and lastly, but only because I just saw it on my calendar; Catch Up Drinks With The Boys. Recently two of my great mates were transferred out to other stores and I unfortunately no longer to work with them and this makes me a sad panda. I miss my boys, they always had reason to make me smile and were always willing to listen to my horrible dating stories. I desperately want to work with those boys again; but thats selfish of me as I know they have gone out to bigger and better things. Hopefully I'll follow suite soon enough.
I actually still live in the house that I grew up in so i'm still creating memories for this home. I've now lived here for about 27 years and our family has had quite a few things happen here.
Over time there have been four 21st birthday parties, four 18th birthday parties, countless animal deaths, 101 christmas dinner with extended families, countless birthday parties for anything that wasn't major yet below the 16 years mark. We've had tupperware parties, linen parties & undercover ware parties. Barbecues, Australia Days, Wedding Anniversaries, 60th's 50ths and anything else you can throw at me, chance are this house has seen it.
This is either myself, or my brother. I can't remember; How good is the Early 90's Guitar Hero.
We've got 7 of us in our family so this house had a fairly huge amount of people wander through it over time.
The biggest memories I have are of our Christmas parties; my mothers side of the family has always celebrated it together and for as long as I can remember they have rotated the parties yearly from sibling to sibling; Generally we hosted Christmas about once every 3 or 4 years depending on outside factors.
Many years we had a theme (because apparently my mother isn't content with just Christmas), Crazy Hats is one such theme which springs to mind; and I do not much care for that year as it was a remarkably average idea.
Last time it was held at our home I drank quite a lot; My father had found some home made alcohol given to him by a mate or work colleague about 20 years ago and my siblings and cousins all decided it would be a good idea to make some sort of vile punch out of them.
Christmas is always the same; no matter where its held. Lunch at 12 O'Clock and Santa Clause visits at 2. Turkey, Beef, Chicken, Pork with vegetables and an awesome pudding thats travelled all the way from Bendigo with my sister.
Tina. Fucking. Turner
Every Friday I try to play one of THE BEST CDs EVER MADE. It is not stop amazing track after amazing track.
This week sadly doesn't seem to be too busy. *sigh*
I purchased this on bluray today, and I've heard brilliant things about it. Plus this will be the first TV series I'm able to watch on my spanking new television and bluray, so it look fucking awesome.
Hopefully I'll be able to swing it so that I can enjoy dinner with two of my favorite people, and their little adorable bub. I haven't had a chance to see the wee one for a few weeks now, but from the photos I'm seeing on Facebook she's still adorable. I won't push them for dinner tho, they have lots of stuff on their plate at the moment.
Day Off - Tuesday
I'll be going to the gym, and probably heading off to another store of the company I work for to hang out with some friends and to show the girl who does me role there some tips & tricks, stupidly I went there today so these people will probably just think I'm harassing them.
My return to the gym has been really good, I'm trying to manage 3 times a week (mon-fri) and once on the weekend, I think this is ok, as I'm not going to it work my self to death, but it's manageable and helps me maintain the motivation to continue, I'd like to get more motivation tho, and rock the gym before work.
I've been trying to hang out with this guy for ages, and the other week we finally were able to goto the movies, and I tried to get him over for a movie while I was house sitting this weekend but he had plans, it'd be nice to hang out again and see if things might eventually lead somewhere. Although he has this FUCKING ANNOYING habit of not replying to text messages, but writing back to Facebook messages.